Is it ok to say, “no” in the face of genuine need?
Consider the story of the five wise virgins in Matthew 25:1-13. Notice v.9 “‘No,’ they replied, ‘there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves.’
These girls did not have any trouble saying, “no’ in the face of genuine need and they were commended as being wise.
We all have limited time and resources, we are wise when we learn what it is God wants us to do and put our time and resources into doing those things well.
In John 5 we read the story of the man Jesus healed at the pool of Bethesda. The story starts this way:
Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years (John 5:3-5).
A great number of people were in need but Jesus only healed one of them. He effectively said, “no” to all the others. So yes, there are times when it is necessary to say “no” in the face of need.