Inside Out by Larry Crabb (Alpha, 1998) is available as a book or cassette. The book has four parts which correspond to the four abbreviated points on the tape.
The four points are:
1. We need to take an honest look at our lives. The gospel needs to penetrate not just our outward behaviour but our inner motives.
2. We need to be honest about our disappointments and our hurts. We need to recognize that because we live in a fallen world with imperfect people, that we have been hurt in the past and will be hurt in the future.
3. We need to recognize that we have all sinned, not only in thought and deed but also by self-protective behaviour. We have not been the channels of love God meant us to be because we have been too busy protecting ourselves from being hurt.
4. We need to trust the Lord with our hurts and repent of our self-protective behaviour.
On the tape Larry says a great deal in a short space of time. I felt the need to listen to the tape several times to catch the full impact of what he was saying. The book goes into a lot more detail. I think both are good value as he raises some valuable issues that need to be thought through.