Social psychologist, Hugh Mackay addresses a wide range of topics in his book, The Way We Are.
In Mackay’s initial chapter, called The Context, he draws attention to seven trends that have given people more ways to connect but have created more loneliness. He refers back to these trends throughout the book.
A brief overview of chapters:
Have another apple, Eve discusses the effects of the overwhelm of knowledge that is so easily accessible in today’s highly connected world.
Fake wisdom is a series of well-known statements that we take for granted are true because they’ve been often repeated, but are they really true?
Are we ready for true gender equality? This chapter is a call to respect everyone, regardless of sex, background or ethics. Some people seem to get all the media attention requesting equality, but equality should be for everyone, not just minority groups.
Poverty is everyone’s problem. Mackay points out the widening gap between the wealthy and those who are struggling. He defines poverty as those who can’t afford to participate in their society in what most people would consider a normal way.
The Boomers’ legacy discusses the changes that Boomers have made to society and how that has affected other generations.
We worship many gods. This chapter discusses the effects of Christian faith, many of which are positive, such as believing in something beyond ourselves is beneficial to our mental health. Church attendees are regularly reminded to show compassion to the less fortunate, and belonging to a close-knit group with shared values is socially and emotionally valuable. Nevertheless, I found this chapter disappointing because he quotes dated historical information. He refers to the New Testament books as myths, stating that they were written long after the events described. However, most ancient historians (even those without faith) are now dating many of these books to around 50-60 AD and therefore in living memory of the first readers. It’s highly unlikely Christianity would have spread so rapidly if people knew the accounts to be inaccurate.
In survival of the kindest, Mackay shares archaeological findings that support the premise that humans have survived because of their ability to connect with one another.
It’s time to hone our listening skills. Here, Mackay shares the powerful and surprising effects of simply paying attention and listening to others. It can do more for someone’s mental health than we would expect.
Sometimes the dream is enough. Mackay shares his idealistic view that if we all try hard enough, people can change and show kindness to one another, thereby improving society for everyone.
An interesting and well-written account of current trends in our society, even though I don’t agree with all his findings.
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